“Dark Girls” The Documentary

Speaking of casting stones, last weekend I watched a documentary called Dark Girls.  This documentary was a trigger for me, in the fact that it brought out so many emotions. Mainly anger and frustrations because of how we treat our fellow black people. It brings to light the sadness and reality of our community.

I would like to see change, and that change can only come from within.

You can watch this documentary on Netflix, or YouTube ( Part One | Part Two | Part Three | Part Four | Part Five | Part Six ).

Documentary exploring the deep-seated biases and attitudes about skin color—particularly dark skinned women, outside of and within the Black American culture.

Dark Girls (2011)

Documentary – 17 November 2011 (USA)


Put Down the Stones and Stop Fearing

Why are we so scared or quick to judge? When I say we I mean African/ African American women. In most categories we are very strong, opinionated, and independent.

However, in the relationship category we seem to think we are bound to one race; and that race is African / African American men.  Yet, the same individuals that are scared to venture out are quick to judge the ones that have ventured out into dating other races.


By judging or being small-minded, you are no better than a small-minded racist or someone who is prejudice.

Dave, a white man, has allowed me to feel free and confident in my own hair and skin. It may sound peculiar, but it is the truth. He loves my natural hair and is always eager for to me to take out my hair extensions. I no longer care what others say about my natural hair. I have learned to embrace my race because of this. He treats me like a queen, and I feel like a queen! That is how it should be.

I’m not saying we should drop any relations with our black men, or that we should be totally against our men. I am saying if you are not being treated like a queen and do not feel like a queen, you need to get up and G-O…GO! If you feel like all men are crappy then maybe you need to venture somewhere else.

Let’s stop fearing what you do not know and stop casting stones at our fellow women.



– Jen

Liebster Award

Yippie-Ki-Yay!! lol.
I was nominated for the Liebster Award! You can go to elle at wishingoodluck for the definition of the award. Who by the way nominated me!
Thank You Elle dear

Rules of Engagement:

  • List 11 facts about yourself 
  • Answer the 11 questions given to you 
  • Create 11 new questions for the bloggers you nominate for the award 
  • Choose 11 bloggers with 200 or less followers to nominate 
  • Go to each bloggers page and let them know about the award 
  • Thank the person who nominated you and link back to their blog 🙂

  • 11 Facts About Me:

    1. I’m NigerianCoffee is my middle name and my 52 oz coffee mug is my best friend.
    2. I’m a Virgo and I judge people based off their horoscope. If I’m going through a rough patch I read what my horoscope says for the month. 
    3. I use to be bulimic
    4. I also have a tendency to go through extreme phases. Like this week I just got the flu and recently got over it. So now I’m a cleaning machine!
    5. I’m a weave-aholic
    6. I really enjoy fashion design and I secretly want to be a fashion designer before I die. oh and I write short stories. I love writing! I would like to publish before I die.
    7. I use to hate country music…But now I love it. 
    8. I’m only now beginning to accept my natural hair. I use to hate it!
    9. When I was the new kid on the block I was teased (the hell out) for acting like a “white girl”….whatever that means.
    10. I have a problem with spending money before I get it. 
    11. I love baking and cooking, but baking even more!
    +1   I want to be like Bree Van De Kamp

    11 Questions for me, from Elle:

    Reality TV: yay or nay?
     Nay to Reality TV and Yay to TV Series! I love wandering into the unapprehended world of fiction.
     What is your favorite food?
     I love my mom’s Jollof Rice (an african dish I’m learning to perfect)
    Where is your next travel destination?
    I have idea! Probably Minnesota….I wish it’d be Paris though =/
    Did/do you enjoy school?

    uhmm…lol jk! I do like attaining information I’ve never known and I do get excited when it’s lab days.
    What would your dream job be? 
    A Fashion Designer with my own line of clothes and boutique in every country. (Dream Big or Go Home)…Did I tell you my name is Spanish class was Soñadora.

    What do you consider your greatest achievement? 
    You know what…? It’s becoming independent and flying my wings and deciding to go after what I want. Oh and Phi-Theta-Kappa of course!
    Are you a cat person, dog person or neither?
    Dog person, Dave is both, but cats freak me out a bit! Dave wants one of those Bengal cats!
    Where do you consider yourself “from”?
    I’m a self proclaimed suburbanite and full blooded Nigerian-American from the 20s, 40s or 70s….(in another life). Sometimes I joke that I’m Filipino and people believe me!
    If you had a theme song, what would it be?
    Damn this is a hard one! “I Gotta Get Through This” by Daniel Beddingfield
    What’s your favorite season?
    Christmas because it’s so freakin cheery and full of glee.
    What characteristics do you love about your real-life best friend?
    This person knows what I need before I ask for it and I know what that person wants before they want it.

    Here ya go…My Nominees!:

    1. Beth|  Shug In Boots
    2. Taylor Gene| Pre-Med Princess
    3. Angela| Selfless Ambition
    4. L.| Party Over Hair
    5. Emily| Life’s a Beach
    6. Taryn|Retro Dreamer
    7. Ani|Catch 21
    8. Jessica|Lovely Undergrad

    To my Nominees…Here are your Questions:

    1. What is your least favorite season of the year?
    2. What actress would play you in a movie and would play your love interest?
    3. If you were to publish a book what would it be about?
    4. Who is your favorite Disney Princess (including all the new additionally ones) and why?
    5. Which celebrity gets under your skin?
    6. Which celeb do you look alike or which one’s personality is similar to yours?
    7. Would you go back and change at least one thing about your past?
    8. You feel most confident when…?
    9. What do you normally do after a bad day?
    10. How do you celebrate a good day?
    11. If you had an alter ego what would name him or her and how would you describe your alter ego?