Put Down the Stones and Stop Fearing

Why are we so scared or quick to judge? When I say we I mean African/ African American women. In most categories we are very strong, opinionated, and independent.

However, in the relationship category we seem to think we are bound to one race; and that race is African / African American men.  Yet, the same individuals that are scared to venture out are quick to judge the ones that have ventured out into dating other races.

Why?

By judging or being small-minded, you are no better than a small-minded racist or someone who is prejudice.

Dave, a white man, has allowed me to feel free and confident in my own hair and skin. It may sound peculiar, but it is the truth. He loves my natural hair and is always eager for to me to take out my hair extensions. I no longer care what others say about my natural hair. I have learned to embrace my race because of this. He treats me like a queen, and I feel like a queen! That is how it should be.

I’m not saying we should drop any relations with our black men, or that we should be totally against our men. I am saying if you are not being treated like a queen and do not feel like a queen, you need to get up and G-O…GO! If you feel like all men are crappy then maybe you need to venture somewhere else.

Let’s stop fearing what you do not know and stop casting stones at our fellow women.

 

☮♡✝

– Jen

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Mood Busting #001 | During The Commute

  Mood Busting #001 | During The Commute

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Commuting…

My one hour commute from school to home 85% of the time squanders my mood. It flat out stinks! It ruins the fact that I’m happy to be leaving campus and going home. BOOOO to commuting.

Commute Buster | Play Some Music

By the time I get home, I’m pissed and too unmotivated to do anything. On this one day however, I looked up “feel good” playlists on Spotify. I had tons of results pop up and I added them all (and later deleted the “weakest links”). Yes! Eureka!! Finally, a variety of music that kept things different every now  and again!Spotify is not the only mood busting tool for a commute. Pandora is awesome as well. It also does a great job of adding a variety of music to the long (STRESSFUL) drive.

Commute Buster | Just Listen

Somehow, I came across the idea of listening to podcasts. I have different playlists that I listen to depending on the mood. My comedy pods are for when I want to laugh. I’ll listen to class related pods when I’m crunched for studying time.

Commute Buster | Make Small Talk

l_140This last point may sound a little kray kray, but honestly making small talk with yourself in your head or outside of your head helps a ton.

…Oh, and breathe,

I know it works for me. When I focus on taking deep inhales and exhales I tend to forget about the fact that someone is tailgating me like a crazy loony person.

         ☮ ✝ ♡

               —Jen

Excuse Me. I’m Sorry.

Excuse my lack of posts….

They old saying goes “If you have nothing [nice] to say do not say it at all.” I had nice things to say, but I was not willing to log on and type out everything. 

However, I’m completely done with this semester and I have some things I am willing to share.

Be patient with me guys! 

Thanks Jen.

Keep your Enemies Close, but your Classmates Closer

I really like finding Nursing School articles. I think that with more knowledge comes power.
When I do come across cool articles I like to share them with everyone so here you go!

How to Become Close with Your Classmates in Nursing School

Posted On: September 4,2013 | Written By: Kendall Kilander

build relationships in nursing schoolWe know nursing school is tough, but you’ll find strength in numbers. In Olivet Nazarene University’s accelerated nursing program, you’ll travel through the 16-month program with the same group of classmates (your cohort). You’ll spend a lot of time with your fellow nursing students, so we’ve come up with three ways in which you can become closer with them.

1. Introduce yourself to as many other students as possible.

Don’t wait for someone else to approach you. Take the initiative to reach out to the other students in your cohort. Throughout nursing school, no one will be able to relate to you better than your classmates. Chances are people in your cohort will have had many different life experiences. You won’t want to miss out on all of the valuable insights that your classmates have to contribute.

2. Form study groups outside of class.

Our nursing faculty will be available to answer your questions throughout all of your nursing courses, but your classmates are also a great resource! The best way to study is to teach someone else. Take turns teaching tough concepts to the other members in your study group. If you can correctly and thoroughly explain the course material to your classmates, you’ll be well prepared for any exam. Remember, everyone can benefit from group study, even if you usually prefer to study alone, and time spent with a group should not replace individual study.

3. Take interest in your classmates’ lives outside of nursing school.

This last tip is to help you connect with your classmates. You’re going to want the support of your cohort. But, it’s a two-way street. Take an interest in their lives outside of nursing school. Whether you’re a recent college grad or an adult learner, nursing school isn’t easy. You’ll seek the support of your classmates. Between your coursework, clinicals and study groups, you’ll spend a lot of time with your classmates. You should make an effort to get to know each other personally.

New School Year New You!

The first week has sailed by, and now we (as I), am on to the second week. This post is a tad bit late. However, I figured some may not have been fully prepared for this new school year. The saying goes:

Better late than never.”

And I am so serious, I stand by this quote although I should not! When in all actuality, if you FAIL to PREP, you are PREPPING to FAIL! No one likes failing so, I think it is a good time to PREP. For those that have already prepped for the already started school year, let’s go ahead and let the ones that haven’t, prep (me…sort of!)

New School Year New You

Get Organized || Some professors have their syllabus already online for you to print out. They are actually trying to help you out by giving you a sneak peek into the semester’s roller coaster of a ride.  I printed all of the syllabi I could get my hands on. I also, went ahead and bought all the necessary school supplies I need in order to separate each class. My blue folder for one class, yellow for one class and purple for another. The same goes for all of my binders. I also purchased a large family calendar so that I can track what is going in class everyday and every week. By doing this I could also write down Dave’s schedule and that way we can both see what the month holds. Oh yeah, and be sure to be active in KEEPING organized, it is easy to become organized the hard part is staying organized.

Make a Routine || I’m pretty sure I’ve heard a bout making routines a bazillion times, so I’m sure everyone else has heard it once before. Well I’m here to say it another time! In all seriousness routine making a following is key to having a swift morning, midday and night. Your body and mind will get to know what comes next in line. Routines really do help to make things run smooth and get you in the habit of  knowing when to start and stop your homework, or when to stop with your down-time and hop on your study-time. For me, in the morning I take my dogs out, make coffee, feed the dogs, pack my lunch and sometimes dinner. The I pack Dave’s lunch, hit the shower, get my clothes on, pack my bag and sit outside with Dave and part for the day.  My evening  and midday routine has not been set. All I do thus far, is go to class ( I use the same stairway), then use the computer lab til 2:00 pm and then study for my next and head to my next class at 4:00 pm. Putting alarms in your mobile devices help you to keep on track with your routine.

Get a Designated Study Area || DSA…designated study area, which is really self-explanatory.  Find a good area to study that will not distract you. I don’t like the library because their are too many snickering people there. I go to the commons and sit there or I stay in an out of sight place outside.  This helps me A LOT!  Also, Dave and I turned a closet space into an office and I study there when I am at home otherwise I’d find myself leaning over to catch what he’s watching! -__-

Once Again Make a Routine || I’m pretty sure I’ve heard a bout making routines a bazillion times, so I’m sure everyone else has heard it once before. Well I’m here to say it another time! In all seriousness routine making a following is key to having a swift morning, midday and night. Your body and mind will get to know what comes next in line. Routines really do help to make things run smooth and get you in the habit of  knowing when to start and stop your homework, or when to stop with your down-time and hop on your study-time. For me, in the morning I take my dogs out, make coffee, feed the dogs, pack my lunch and sometimes dinner. The I pack Dave’s lunch, hit the shower, get my clothes on, pack my bag and sit outside with Dave and part for the day.  My evening  and midday routine has not been set. All I do thus far, is go to class ( I use the same stairway), then use the computer lab til 2:00 pm and then study for my next and head to my next class at 4:00 pm. Putting alarms in your mobile devices help you to keep on track with your routine.

Get an Amazing Planner || Some people, not I, think that planners are overrated! I say, for me, they are very much needed! I would lose my mind, marbles and all the above! I also place sticky notes in my planner too! I am planner and list obsessed and I like it that way. It keeps my organized, and when I do forget to write things down in my planner I think I have nothing else to do!  I accidentally double book appointments and I’ll have to cancel one, which is why I write down almost 98.9% of my thoughts and plans into my planner. I Erin Condren’s Life Planner. She’s got planners for EVERYTHING and she adds to her website almost daily! I also enjoy these planners as well: May Books and FiloFax.

Gather up Some Support || We look to Tumblr, Pinterest and a bunch of other social media websites for “inspo.” My Tumblr is filled with fitspo and fashion inspo! I also have a ton of “careerspo” to keep me motivated, to support me when I feel like giving up. Trust me go on Pinterest or on Tumblr type in your career of choice, or even what you are taking during the semester and you will find people who are struggling with the same things as you.  My favorite support on Tumblr would be  Total Pre-Med Move.

Oh Come On!! High-Expectations!

I LOVE blogging and really it is sort of my escape. I can come on here and vent if I want to.Today I’m venting about high-expectations and how if you set them too high….you are bound to tumble…hard (every once in a while). I’m a pessimistic type person and when I do tumble I feel like the world is crashing on my head! It takes me a while to stand up, dust my shoulders off and climb back up.

You would think being a pessimist would allow me to brace for falls, but truth be told I do get excited and I do have high-hopes (every once in a while).

For example, When I do end up talking myself into going back to the gym in the A.M. I go for like 3-4 days straight and then one morning I’ll miss a workout.

I seriously feel like I’m a no-good loser!Dave makes me breakfast and I’m like “NOOOO! I’m going to be fat! Because I didn’t workout this morning, so I can’t eat for the whole DAY!!!!”

Boo-hoo-hoo! Cry me a river! I’m so whiny sometimes, it’s not okay.

My point this morning is….being pessimistic SUCKS. Setting high-expectations is good, but you must remember that with those expectations comes a few tumble. Do NOT and I mean it! Do not falter and don’t take days or hours to get back up, take a minute or two and snap out of it.

-Jenn

P.S. — Are you an optimist or a pessimist? I want to hear your stories and your opinions! =)

This or That: Boyfriend Jeans or Skinny Jeans

This or That

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Rihanna looks amazing in almost everything, but that doesn’t mean I would wear everything she wears.

However, I love the comfort of boyfriend jeans. They are a laid back pair jeans that I could wear around campus. Skinny jeans are jeans I would wear to most occasions.  You can dress them up or dress them down.

Are you the comfort loving person that would rock the boyfriend jeans? Or are you that person that loves dressing up her figure-hugging skinny jeans?